Sometimes these unexpected surprises can be small, while others are life-changing. And for me, there was nothing more life-changing then when I had my daughter. I thought – was I ready for a baby? Was this really in my plans? But soon I realized that this little curveball had a purpose and was meant to enrich my life. Things happen, and they happen for reason. You see, there’s always a plan – even if it’s not your plan.

There may come a time in your life when things don’t go as planned, and something might happen to you that you never expected.  So don’t fret – it may very well be a curveball that is meant to shift your path in the direction that benefits you the most. Sometimes we may not see it , or understand it, but there is something bigger than us that understands what we need at this very moment. Eventually we will see that the unexpected situation helped us grow. Life is hard, and sometimes it throws us curveballs, lemons, twists and turns all at the same time. What matters most is that you catch what’s coming at you and make best of the situation.

 
If you would’ve asked me eight years where I would be today, I probably wouldn’t have said – married, with a 7 year old daughter, but now I couldn’t imagine my life without them. They have brought so much love, joy, and happiness to my life…. I wouldn’t have it any other way. This Mother’s Day I’m so thankful that life decided to throw one of its curveballs my way.

 
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…and it’s already time for summer fashion and swimwear! Shopping for swimwear can sometimes be a little stressful, but Sonsi has an insane selection of every type of plus size swimsuit and cover up under the sun. It took me a while, but I managed to pick out my favorite pieces to share!

Eclipse Twist Front Swimdress by Infinity Blu

This swimdress is so elegantly chic, I’d almost hate to get in the water with it. The style is flattering and pretty without being fussy or uncomfortable. There is nothing worse than a swim suit that rides up and has crazy straps. This is one you can put on and enjoy wearing.

White Dots Plus Size Lingerie Swimdress by Longitude

I love this swimsuit so much, I wish it were an actual dress! So many suits these days are halter necks which are lovely, but can get uncomfortable after a while in you are a bit top heavy like myself. I love that this suit has actual straps. . .  and polka dots! A polka dot, empire waist swimdress with straps; it’s like swimsuit heaven.

Red and Orchid Spiced Swimsuit by Aquabelle

Maybe you aren’t a fan of swimdresses; maybe you prefer something sleek and unfussy; maybe you also swim for exercise. If so, this is a great suit for all of the above. It’s a well-cut tank suit (yay for the lower-cut leg holes!) and the splash of color keeps it fun and fresh.  Plus those wide shoulder straps are flattering and extra supportive. This suit is a great mix of function and fashion!

Magenta V-Neck Dress by Beach Belle

I am a sucker for a coverup that can also be a casual dress. You never know when your day at the beach is going to end at a happy hour or dinner, and you don’t want to look like you’re still in your beach attire. This dress is so cute and comfy – I’d wear it as a coverup and to brunch the next day! See what I mean? Double duty clothes are the best!

Embroidered Kaftan by City Chic

This coverup is another great example of a piece that can work as a dress as well. The tie waist is awesome and the embroidered top is absolutely lovely. It comes in four colors, but I think the marine is my favorite. Such a bright and summery shade of blue!

Have you got your swimsuit yet for this season?

Cathy works for herself, doing freelance social media and content marketing. This leaves her plenty of time to shop and organize her shoe rack and collection of owl jewelry. She lives in Austin, Texas and regularly petitions local stores to carry more plus size clothing. She writes Austin Slave to Fashion and believes that every woman has the right to look and feel beautiful no matter what her size.

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I realize this is an ad and it may have been altered in some way, but there is a serious underlying issue here that cannot be ignored. Why do women constantly diminish themselves? I know I for one struggle with body image issues, and it’s not just me. There are plenty of studies out there that show women find it challenging to have a healthy self-image. But what we as women have to learn is that our flaws and differences is what makes us beautiful. Everyone has insecurities, whether you’re a supermodel or not, but what we must learn is to stop focusing on the negative and accept and even appreciate the characteristics that makes us different.

We ARE beautiful. Every last one of us. If complete strangers can see it, why can’t we? This distorted perception that we have is hazardous to our self-esteem. If only we could learn to hone in on our positive attributes instead of automatically trying to tear ourselves down all the time, we can see the beauty we all possess. If beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, we need to stop being so harsh on ourselves. We need to realize that our opinions of ourselves matter most. And although we may not always think we’re perfect, we are certainly more beautiful than we think.

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Was I pretty enough? Was I smart enough? Was I popular enough? The list goes on and on. Some of these anxieties I don’t think I will ever fully grow out of, but others have gone away with age and lessons learned. Although I don’t think we should spend our time filling our minds with regrets, I do think it’s fun to reflect back and think of what advice we would give our younger selves. If I could, I would tell myself…

1. Embrace who you are, and not what you think others want you to be.
2. It’s not love. You’re thirteen. In fact, don’t even bother with boys right now. The ones worth your time will come much later in life.
3. Shyness gets you nowhere. Don’t be afraid and speak up.
4. You are beautiful no matter what flaws you see in the mirror.
5. Listen to your mother. She’ll start making a lot more sense to you later.
6. Learn to swim. You’ll kick yourself later for not doing it.
7. Take care of your body now. It gets much harder when you’re older.
8. Believe in yourself. You are capable of more than you think.
9. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Life is meant to be enjoyed.
10. It’s okay to lose friends. Those who are your true friends will stay in your life no matter what.
11. Stop biting your nails! Seriously. Stop.
12. Don’t be in such a rush to grow up.
13. Stop comparing yourself to others. There is only one you, and you are special.
14. Be fearless. You have it in you.
15. Your parents love you more than you know. You will only understand just how much when you become one.

What would you tell yourself?

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Breathe In the Fresh Air
Much like our homes, after a long winter we could use a good airing out. Opening the windows and doors can bring in a fresh new breeze to your life. This is your opportunity to try something new and to take a leap of faith. It’s time to get rid of the bad pollutants circling around you, and focus on getting a fresh new perspective.

Let In the Light
Letting in a bit of sunshine can not only brighten your spirits, but your surroundings as well. When we’re able to open our minds and let light shine through, we will be able to let those rays of positivity filter through our lives.

Clean-Out
What are you holding on to that you need to let go of? Carrying issues from your past weighs you down. It’s time to clean out those negative thoughts and replace them with healthy new ones. Holding on to grudges and old baggage only hurts you.

A Healthy Start
During the winter months we tend to be more stationary. Now that the weather is playing nice, it’s time kick start a healthier lifestyle by being active and spending time outside.

Cleaning up your home is great, but think of spring cleaning as a mini makeover for all areas of your life. The more you make time to insert a little positive energy in your life the happier you will be.

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One detail we want to make sure you don’t forget is what you’re wearing underneath your dress! Sonsi’s selection of plus size bridal lingerie features everything you’ll need for a romantic wedding, plus some sexy items for the honeymoon! Check out some of our favorite bras, panties and corsets designed exclusively for plus size women celebrating their special day!

These bold lace hipster panties by Cacique are perfect for a bride. You’ll be comfortable with these under your dress and the pretty lace detail will add a touch of femininity!

For our ladies going for a more traditional look, try the Grace Corset by City Chic. It’s styled in jacquard stretch satin & delicate stretch lace, and comes complete with a bow!

If you’re looking for an updated lingerie look, try the Rose Chemise Lace by Native Intimates. It has the feminine lace we love, but at $32, it won’t break the bank!

Don’t think we forgot lingerie for the honeymoon! This Fifi Waist Cincher by City Chic will definitely spice up your honeymoon, no matter where you’re going!

For our girly girls, check out the Pink satin & lace garter skirt by Cacique. Our reviewer says it best: “Boyfriend loves it!”

What lingerie did you (or will you) be wearing on YOUR big day? Leave your answer in the comments below! Don’t forget to visit our Bridal Boutique for all of your plus size bridal needs.

This Becca Asymetric Dress by IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel has the perfect touch of elegance and style for a woman who is all about glamour, (and isn’t afraid to show a little arm!)

The Scalloped Boudoir Lace Dress by Kiyonna has the perfect mix of classiness and sexiness. It’s feminine without being too revealing.

If like to cover up your stems, a maxi dress is a great option. You’ll still feel sexy and beautiful, without feeling too exposed. This Jacquard Geometric Maxi from City Chic has a unique pattern and gorgeous silhouette.

No matter your shape or size, the wrap dress is universally flattering. This Wrap Dress by Lane Bryant can be dressed up or down making it a great wardrobe staple.

For the woman who likes to show off her gorgeous curves, a body hugging dress like the Ambrosia Dress by IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel is definitely a head-turner.

Nothing says it’s party-time quite like a sequin dress. This Margaux Dress by IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel will make you feel like you can rule the night.

A cinched waist is a curvy girl’s best friend. It creates an hour-glass silhouette that will flatter any figure. The Bow Front Bella Dress by City Chic is a great option with the waistline bow detail.

For the woman who prefers a looser fit, the shift dress is ideal. The Sequin Banded Chiffon Dress by Ulla Popken is perfect, plus the sequin bands add a bit of glamour.

A ruched dress hits a curvy woman in all the right places. The Rumor Ruched Dress by Kiyonna is the perfect example of how sassy and chic this silhouette is.

A big event deserves a knockout gown, and the Garbo Gown by IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel is just the dress for the occasion. Its striking structure is sure to make your night feel special.

Whether you chose a simple black dress, a short cocktail dress, or a floor length formal dress – remember you can never go wrong with a classic!

Meet sonsiLiving’s newest blogger, Jenny Moyett! Jenny is the brains behind Babblings of a Mommy, a lifestyle blog dedicated to family, fashion, beauty & style. She resides in New York with her husband, 7 year old daughter, and tail-wagging morkie.

The truth is, unless we have a medically diagnosed panic disorder, we should try to use these fears as opportunities to move past whatever we’re afraid of and grow from it. Just think about how great it would be to live life without it – if we just faced them head-on. If you’re up for the challenge, here are some tips that might help.

Don’t Dwell

The more we think about something, the bigger it becomes. It’s often all too easy to psych ourselves out, so the less time we spend dwelling on our fear, the less anxiety we’ll have about it.

Think of the Pay-off

With bigger risks, come bigger rewards. Often the biggest successes come when we choose not to be safe and take risks.

Reward Yourself

If there’s a particular fear that has been plaguing you for years, consider giving yourself a reward for facing it.

When my daughter was younger she was deathly afraid of needles and when it came to getting her immunization shots – she would make it a mission and half for the doctors and nurses to give it to her. Finally, when she was 5 or so, I sat her down and had a talk with her. I told her that I knew she was scared, but it would only hurt for a second, and if she was able to do it without having the doctors hold her down or scream bloody murder – I would take her to get her favorite ice cream afterwards. Who knew that was all it took?! Not only did she take her shot like a champ, but she didn’t even flinch once because all she could think about was the ice cream! So, if it works for a 5 year old, why won’t it work for you?

Conquering your fears is all a mental game. When we stop worrying about what will happen, or what could happen – the more fearless we become. So what are you afraid of?

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A breathtakingly beautiful Grecian gown in pure white will make your special day an unforgettable one. Look out for a sweet and sexy surplice neckline that elongates and draws attention to your naturally beautiful décolleté.

How can you find that “extra special” detail to make your dress truly one-of-a-kind? Balance the simplicity of the silhouette with an originally designed IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel crystal-encrusted waistband, adding instant glamour, transforming your wedding dress from understated to absolutely stunning.

To elevate the overall look, the most important element is the fit. In this full length, fully lined wedding dress, you will find that the lining and draping help to create a beautifully smooth silhouette en-wrapping your body in comfort and confidence.

Now that you’re all set, get ready to say “I do” in the Bellerose Wedding Gown.

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My answer is, “Yes.”

It’s great that we want to make the other person happy all the time, but being completely selfless can ruin a relationship too. Focusing too much on the other people’s needs often means we’re neglecting our own, and can leave us feeling bitter or filled with resentment. Quite frankly, sometimes we need to take care of ourselves before we can take care of someone else.

You see, there’s a common misconception that being selfish is a bad thing, but let me remind you of a phrase that you’ve probably heard hundreds of times while flying the friendly skies. “You have to put on your own air mask first”. That means you have to think about yourself first, before you can think of helping others. So why can’t we apply this rule to our day-to-day lives?

Now, I’m not saying that you should be neglectful when it comes to your partner, or your friends, or even your children – but sometimes as women we stretch ourselves too thin and often forget to put ourselves in the equation. All I’m saying is that we should think about what we want occasionally.

Is that so bad?

Being giving and easy-going is great, but being a full-time people pleaser is not. We have to train our brains to understand that being compassionate and caring women doesn’t mean we have to give all our power away. We need to strive to find the proper balance in our lives – even if that means being a little selfish sometimes. And the only way to do that is to acknowledge our own wants and needs and treat them as equal to those of the other people in our lives.

Once we discover the right amount of give and take – the better our relationships will be, and the happier we will feel.

Meet sonsiLiving’s newest blogger, Jenny Moyett! Jenny is the brains behind Babblings of a Mommy, a lifestyle blog dedicated to family, fashion, beauty & style. She resides in New York with her husband, 7 year old daughter, and tail-wagging morkie.

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